I am a 14 year old and I am depressed... Mainly cause of how I am treated by other children. It's really hard to go to school. Which usually I pretend to be sick to miss school. Sometimes I even WISH I was sick... My life just gets worse and worse and I have no clue what to do...
It's easier to make friends on the internet than it is to make friends in person. So I need some advice...

If it's just teasing, then I'd just ignore them. If they're doing something to you, go talk to a school counselor or a teacher. I'd advise against skipping school, most schools have a policy if a student is absent too much. You don't want to be charged with truancy.

You can also try and talk to the people who picking on you. Maybe you could find out why and try to work something out.

find people in school who remind you of your people on the internet. we're out there. we're all real people. i know at least three people who are very much like me.

what do these "other children" do to you? (i know all about the world of obnoxious people. please trust me on that. good lord, i feel like a therapist XD XD XD)

and if you could see that pokegal, mopiece, melody and i are looking at this thread right now, that ought to make you beleive that someone cares.

You should at least try to find some people who have some things in common with you. I had no friends since I had moved from kindergarten, and for the past 4 years, I've felt extremely depressed, I felt all alone. On the first day of fifth grade, I met a girl who had an interest in the same thing that had caused me to not have any friends. We started talking, and now we're good friends. Sure, I'm not very popular, but it feels nice to have a friend. I've said it before, I have TONS more friends on here than in real life. But, I still enjoy my life, because I have at least one life.

So basically, keep trying. Things are guarunteed to pay off in the end.

Mopiece,
If I go to the guidance counselor, wouldn't those girls hate me even more?

Not necessarily.

Are they just teasing you or doing something? Like tripping you,etc?

In the end, the more you respond to them, the more they'll do it. When they see you react to what they do, they probably get a sense of pleasure and power over you so they'll keep doing it as long as they can. You need to find a way to instill some confidence in yourself so you can go about your life at school and ignore them. Once they see that you're not willing to play into their little game, they'll lose that sense of authority and leave to find someone else to pick on (sad, but true...some people are hard to change.)

aeternus,
I heard that one 1,000 times. I ignore them, like I have no reaction, and THEY are STILL being mean. I don't know why...

Maybe they're just jealous of you.

You're still probably reacting in some way, even if it's not obvious to you. When I say "react", I don't mean by yelling or giving them dirty looks or anything. Even by avoiding them (like skipping school) you're reacting. And they see that and they like that they have that power over you.

No. They are definitley NOT jealous of me. They are mean to a couple other kids as well.

So they are just the school bullies?


Aeternus has a good point, by skipping school they see that as a reaction. Try to only not go to school when you're really sick. Then don't go out of your way to avoid them, but don't say anything to them when they do something to you.

That still doesn't help. It's hard to not react to what they are saying...

It's hard. Even I admit that I couldn't do it and it requires a good amount of true self-confidence to accomplish it. But it's really the only way to truly beat them.

It's not like it just started.People have been mean to me since I was first brought to pre-school. I lost all my confidence and self-confidence just by all of that...

It is hard. I know. There really isn't anything else you can do but ignore them.



but at least you only have four years left of school before you get to move on to a college or whatever you want to do. I know four years sound like a long time, but I found high school went by fast.

Then what? Continue to be made fun of until I die?

The real world isn't like high/middle school. In college people don't really team up and make fun of people.

You need to find something in yourself to be confident about. This is the difficult part. Don't go for something temporary or false, like outward beauty or anything, because in the long run, that won't help. And it's also difficult because it's not something others can do for you. It's something you have to find yourself and work at. It won't be easy and it won't be quick. In fact, looking and assessing ourselves is one of the worst experiences because you see the bad and the good (if you do it right, that is). Why do you think we keep so many things around us to distract us from ourselves?

I know. I will tell everybody what happened when I come from school on Monday.